Nollywood actor, Williams Uchemba took to TikTok to educate Nigerian women on how to properly apologize to their man after a misunderstanding.
The actor pointed out that men don’t see love the way women do. According to him, to men, love is honour and respect, and for them to believe their woman loves them, it is not by word but by action, which is them honouring and respecting them.
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He said that when a man is upset, a woman shouldn’t be at the same time, even if it is the man who is at fault, because men don’t hear anything when they are angry.
Uchemba stated that after he has calmed down, the woman can now go to him to apologize, and she must show in her action that she is truly sorry.
He said that after she has made him delicious food and he has totally forgiven her, she can now correct him about the other day.
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The actor said the man will listen because his woman has shown she respects him.
“I see so many women dating to get married or are already married struggle in the area of apology. Just because you have made up with your man doesn’t mean it was done appropriately. There is how you will do it, even though he wants peace to reign there is something spoiling inside of him.
“So I’m going to show you how to properly apologize to your man, a way that will even win his heart the more.
“Each time you fight, it can either build your relationship or tear it out. You need to understand that the way you reason and the way men reason are not the same.
“I will use myself as an example. What you call love is not what love is for men. What men understand as love is respect and honour. That being said, when your man is upset you shouldn’t get upset even when he is wrong. You have to hold yourself because there is nothing that you can say to angry man that he is hearing.
“You should only go to him when he is calm. So when you go to him to apologize, you let him know that you are sorry. The next thing to follow that I’m sorry is action. After making delicious food for him and he has totally forgiven you, that is the best time to make corrections. At that point he can listen because you’ve shown you respect him.
“What men seek in relationship is not love by words. It is love by action and by that, love translates to honour and respect,” Uchemba said.
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See reactions:
@hayjaydave: “It’s too stressful.. I will remain single. Thanks.”
@ataste_of_laura: “Me and am sorry 5&6.”
@o.m.a.m.o: “Is this same grace extended to your wife when she offends you?? Do you tell her you’re sorry and pet her before telling her what she did to you was wrong??? Make Una no dy forget say na human being with actual feelings dy involved o.”
@naaly333: “But u do same if u offend your wife.”
@yesimprettyoma: “If he no collect apology from the other room then he should forget it.”
@iam_kingsean: “This guy is handsome with Steeze 💯.”
@slayyolaslay: “Why is the onus on women always to appease men even when the men are wrong? It is not written anywhere! Yes, it is true that when a couple argues, one person has to be the bigger person and apologize even when they are right, HOWEVER, there is no law that says it must always be the woman! This is how African men love to take advantage of women LOL. A general and more balanced piece of advise is that when you argue with your partner, remember it is not a fight or a competition. It shouldn’t be a fight to “win”, rather it should be an effort to “fight” the problem together. When you approach arguments with this mindset, it will solve and prevent a lot of problems.”
@pookie__j7: “Na Uchemba wife i just dey pity.”