What to do if you want good friends – Lady shares insights [VIDEO]

A Nigerian woman, @drestherlonge, shared her perspective on how to cultivate good friendships in a TikTok video.

According to her, the key to having good friends is to first be a good friend yourself. She emphasized that people can sense whether you are genuinely being a good friend or not. To determine if you’re being a good friend, she suggested asking yourself questions such as, “Am I a good friend?” and “Am I a good person?”

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She also mentioned the importance of self-awareness and avoiding entitlement. She encouraged viewers to consider whether they take more than they give in relationships and whether they have a sense of entitlement that the world owes them something.

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Furthermore, the TikTok user advised giving more than asking for things from friends. She stated that being generous and selfless in friendships is a key factor in building strong and meaningful relationships.

Watch the video below:

@drestherlonge Thoughts on building healthy relationships 💭#estherlonge #fyp #christiantiktok #motivation #fypage ♬ original sound – Esther Longe

See reactions below:

@_v_e_c_k_y: “Just don’t do it to ungrateful people bcs even after doing everything they will ask u what is it that u did when they haven’t done one for you.”

@ujei_: “Lol. I wish this was how it works.”

@nownae_: “I give too much.”

@faithteekpo: “I give a lot and people don’t give me but continue taking from me.”

@mildredbenstowe82: “God will give me the spirit to give more.”

@user6081225298698: “It’s true dear thanks for sharing this, some people complain a lot everytime people don’t check up on me, they don’t call me, everything is about them.”

@prettycrest: “True but God will let us do it to d wrong people.”

@big_oke: “Rule no 1. The fact that you are good doesn’t mean you’ll meet good people.”

@nubien5: “this doesn’t work for everyone o, may we not be surrounded by frenimy.”

@olabosungeorge: “This “giving” thing is wisdom demanding….. people will suck u dry if u re a careless giver.”