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Sexual compatibility: Meaning, signs, calculator

Sexual compatibility: Meaning, signs, calculator

Love and sex are two major components of a romantic relationship. For some of us, sexual compatibility determines whether we want to stay in a relationship or not. Being sexually incompatible is a huge deal-breaker in most relationships. 

Humans are sexual beings. We cannot help how we feel, so finding a sexually compatible partner is very important. While people want partners that share similar political, religious, and family viewpoints, they also want to be able to enjoy sex. If you wish to abstain from sex before marriage or not, it is not okay to not find out if you and your partner are sexually compatible. To guide you, the following shall be revealed:

  • What is sexual compatibility
  • 10 signs you are sexually compatible
  • Sexually incompatible signs
  • Sexual compatibility calculator

What is sexual compatibility?

Sexual compatibility can be defined as shared or similar sexual needs, preferences, turn-ons, and desired frequency between two partners. Sexual compatibility means how you and your partner sexually match your desires, the way you want sex and how often you two want to have sex. In other words, if you have a high sex drive, your partner should have as well and vice versa. If you are turned on by certain physical traits in others, like big breasts, big ass, big penis, ripped abs, etc., go for those who have them. The same thing should also apply to the sexual styles you prefer. Your partner should like them too.

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10 signs you are sexually compatible

There is immediate chemistry between you

One of the first signs of sexual compatibility is that immediate spark when you encounter your partner. It usually happens at the early stage of your relationship. Although it takes time for two people to get familiar enough with each other’s bodies to have great sex, the instant chemistry should be there from the beginning.

Your sex drive match

This is one of the major reasons why couples break up. This means how frequently you and your partner desire sex. If you’re satisfied with one round of sex and your partner wants two or more, there is a problem. But if you both are okay with one round or more than that, then it means your sex drive match.

You enjoy the same sexual acts

Sexual acts in this context are little things that you both enjoy. For instance, if you love PDA (public displays of affection) such as holding hands and kissing in public, your partner should love it too. You both are also turned on by sexting – the act of sending sexual texts or chat messages. You both are fine with missionary style, or you want to explore kinky stuff together. Then you’re sexually compatible.

You have the same views on sex

Do you and your partner share the same views on sex? Do you guys believe sex should be a moment of deep intimacy or just an act of relieving a biological urge? How important is sex in your relationship? If you share similar views on these questions, you’re sexually compatible.

You have the same kissing style

Kissing typically leads to sex. There are different kissing styles. But most people stick to what feels natural to them. If your kissing styles, including mutual rhythm, pace, and oral wetness, match, you’re sexually compatible.

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You’re both open to new sexual ideas

It’s okay to not feel like doing some sexual stuff with your partner. When this occurs, compromise is the key. An open mind in a sexual relationship means you both are willing to respond to each other’s sexual needs by making some sacrifices. For instance, you may not be a fan of blowjobs. But for your partner’s sake, you indulge in it. The same thing applies if your partner is willing to give in to performing sexual acts on you that they may not like. You both are sexually compatible because you’re open to trying new things even when you don’t feel like doing them.

Your communication is great

How do you and your partner tell each other what you like about sex? Do you tell them what you want, and they listen? Do you listen to them as well? When it comes to sexual compatibility, communication is key. When you can achieve that, your sexual life will be more enjoyable.

You know each other’s love signs

There is a level you will sexually reach with your partner; you don’t need to spell out your arousal for them to “get” it. That is one of the beautiful things about sexual compatibility. Being able to communicate your sexual needs without words. Just show the signs that only two of you understand and get things rolling in za oza room.

You both make efforts

Great sex is created. It is not given. Movies have carried the misconception that you will immediately enjoy great, orgasmic sex when you find the “right” partner. Often, that is not true. Great sex takes time to achieve. The question is, are you both willing to put in the effort? If the answer is yes, then you’re sexually compatible with your partner.

You’re on the same page on the type of relationship you want

Do you want an open relationship or not? Are you open to threesomes or not? Do you want a monogamous marriage or a polygamous one? You should discuss these subjects with your partner to determine your sexual compatibility. Often, we assume all relationships to be monogamous. But time has taught us that it is not okay to assume. If you guys want the same things in your relationship, you’re sexually compatible.

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Sexually incompatible signs

  • You can’t communicate effectively
  • There’s no sexual chemistry between you and your partner. No instant spark.
  • Your kissing is terrible.
  • You rarely have sex
  • Your sexual drives don’t match
  • You don’t know your way around each other’s bodies.
  • Having sex with your partner is boring. The thought alone go just tire you.
  • You have different attitudes towards sex
  • You don’t crave your partner’s company. In other words, you don’t mind not being around your partner for long periods at a stretch.

Sexual compatibility calculator

Sexual compatibility is an in-depth analytical tool used to measure the percentage of love compatibility and the chances of a successful relationship between two people. Dating can be pretty exhausting when looking for love or just a hookup. But the internet has made it easy by using calculators to determine sexual compatibility through Western astrology, also called zodiac signs. There are 12 zodiac signs -Capricorn, Aries, Aquarius, Cancer, Pisces, Sagittarius, Taurus, Leo, Gemini, Scorpio, Virgo and Libra.

Capricorn-Aries

‎Capricorns are people born from December 22 to January 19. Aries are born from March 21 to about April 19. According to zodiac signs, Capricorns are most sexually compatible with Aries because they bring a sparkling twist whenever they have sex.

Aquarius-Cancer

Aquarius are born from January 20 to about February 18, while Cancer are people born from June 22 to about July 22. Sexual partners from both zodiac signs match because they experience sheer existence, tremendous joy and a strong sense of fulfilment when they are with each other.

Pisces-Sagittarius

Pisces are born from February 19 to March 20, while Sagittarius are born from November 22 to about December 21. Sexual partners from both zodiac signs are most compatible because they get love and emotion in abundance from each other.

Taurus-Leo

Taurus are people born from April 20 to about May 20. People born from July 23 to August 22 make up the Leo zodiac sign. According to Western astrology, Taurus are more sexually compatible with Leo because they both have dominating personalities, which keep their relationship strong.

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Gemini-Scorpio

Geminis are born from May 21 to about June 21, while Scorpios are born from October 23 to November 21. Sexual partners from both zodiac signs are most compatible because they are keenly aware of each other’s sexual needs and fulfil them.

Virgo-Libra

August 23 to about September 22 are dates for Virgo zodiac signs, while Libra are people born from September 22 to about October 23. Virgo and Libra are most sexually compatible because they experience extraordinary lovemaking. Their sex life is so intense that it transcends them to a different level.

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Nonye is a Thespian, screenwriter, creative writer and an unapologetic lover of books, great movies and sports. She has over 10 years experience in content writing on entertainment, movies, sports and lifestyle. Nonye is currently a content writer at Blackdot Media and founder of litafrik.com
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