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Self-styled expert dismisses common marriage advice

Self-styled expert dismisses common marriage advice 1

Self-proclaimed marriage therapist who goes by Shamseddin Giwa on Facebook has stirred conversation with his views on a common marital advice.

Giwa faulted common suggestions given to wives, such as using aphrodisiacs, buying sexy lingerie, or cooking their husband’s favorite meals to improve their marriages, calling these tips ineffective if the husband is unwilling to put in the effort.

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In a post shared online, Giwa questioned why such advice is still being promoted in 2024 when the real issue often lies in the husband’s unwillingness to work on the relationship.

He argued that no amount of physical attraction or culinary skills could fix a marriage if one partner is uninterested in making it work.

According to Giwa, the key to a successful marriage lies in connection and effective communication. He emphasized the importance of understanding why one partner is solely working on the marriage and urged women to face the reality if their husband’s interest has diminished.

“If the reason is that your husband doesn’t know better, there might be hope,” Giwa said. “But if he has lost interest, or never had it, then it’s important to face the truth and let that guide your next steps.”

Netizens react:

@Jabbo: “Well said coach . Get to the root of the matter. There’s no need flogging a dead horse that will never rise..You can use all the kayan mata in d world, wear all d sexy lingeries available and end up with empty bedroom wahala with no affection attached 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️”

@Racheal: “Exactly what I’m going through. He won’t make efforts or initiate bonding activities. If we are to do anything no matter how small, I’ll have eto initiate and plan it. It’s so draining.”

@Shalom: “Society has made as if for the marriage to work, it’s solely the woman’s job while the man will be destroying every little effort, hhhmmm since we agreed to marry,we got to make it work ooo not my job solely period”

@Favour: “It takes two intentional mind to make a marriage work”

@Pius: “So true! Can two work together except they agree?”

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