It is a common belief that men are far more likely to cheat on their partners than women. Why do men cheat? You may ask. Well, men are generally believed to be simple creatures. Give them respect, delicious food and mindblowing sex and they would not cheat, right? Err… it’s not as simple as that.
You see, a man that wants to cheat will cheat. However, other factors contribute to cheating on his partner. Meanwhile, cheating carries its consequences. First, it breaks the love and trust of a cheated partner. The affected partner also goes through a devastating emotional rollercoaster which, if not checked, can lead to other more dire consequences.
Enough of this grammar. Let us just go straight to 10 reasons why men cheat.
10 reasons why men cheat
1. Lack of maturity
Emotional immaturity is one of the main causes of why men cheat on their partners. When a man prefers to not invest his time, energy and resources to make his relationship work, instead he would rather go outside to cheat to avoid his relationship problems, then he is emotionally immature. Anyone who aspires to enter into a committed relationship should realise that there will be tough times, times when you will look at your partner and wonder if you made the right decision to be with this person. It takes an emotionally mature man to admit his wrongs and try to iron things out amicably with his partner.
2. Feeling of inadequacy
This usually happens when a man is in a relationship with a partner who is way above his league. She may be richer, more educated or older than him. We live in a society where men are expected to marry women that they are socially and financially better than. These days, more men are marrying up or are in serious relationships with women that are from higher social classes. Sometimes, these men begin to feel intimidated by their women’s achievements. Low self-esteem comes in and when that happens, they begin to feel they are not good enough for their partners. What is the solution? Having an affair with someone of their class or below them.
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3. Sex addiction
A male sex addict will never be satisfied with sexual intercourse with just one partner. He then gets multiple partners to have a level of satisfaction. It is always a weakness that they will carry in and out of a relationship. Such men do not know how to stop cheating except they ask for professional help.
4. Selfishness
When a man has a “the grass is always greener on the other side” mentality, the chances that he will cheat or is already cheating on his partner are very high. Such a man is not satisfied with his current relationship no matter how much the partner tries but feels that there has to be something or someone better out there. He would not work on his weaknesses but wants his partner to always be the perfect one.
5. Not having his needs met
You know the saying about the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? It’s somewhat true. A man who loves food will likely fall for another woman with spectacular cooking skills if his partner cannot cook. The same applies to other areas of a romantic and committed relationship. Men who do not get sexual satisfaction from their partners will likely cheat. Men who do not have peace at home will look for it outside in the arms of other women. The point is when a man feels he is not getting what he wants from his partner, he’s likely to start cheating with someone else who seems to get his needs.
6. Need for adventure
Men are adventurous by nature. They want to try everything. They do not want to be confined to the same routine and blandness of everyday life, which entails going to work, commuting, and boring weekends with family watching TV. They want something new, something fresh, something that will give them that “high” at least for a while. Men want the thrill, risk-taking and excitement seeking with the pleasures of eating the forbidden fruit. How do they go about the adventure? Cheating.
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7. They need their ego stroked constantly
One of the Achilles’ heels of a typical man is his ego. Learn how to stroke a man’s ego and you almost own him forever. A man with an over-bloated usually has insecurity issues. He wants validation to cover up his low self-esteem. Whenever his partner complains or falls short of stroking his ego, his insecurities will come up with vengeance. That is mostly why we have a lot of “zaddies” chasing after barely legal girls.
8. Entitlement mentality
When a man thinks he has worked too hard and made so many achievements including wealth, he may feel entitled to sampling different women as a way to reward himself for his hard work. He does not want to know if his partner will be hurt. To him, cheating is a right that his partner should understand or use the door.
9. Doesn’t think the partner will find out
Cheating can also be a crime of opportunity. It doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with his relationship. The man just happens to be in a situation where he is given a choice to cheat. The opportunity could be at his workplace, school, church, vacation or even at home with some family members. In that case, the man may go ahead and cheat believing that “whatever happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas”. This type of cheating is usually a one-time thing, perhaps a one-night stand, anything that will make the man believe that his partner will never find out. He may even delude himself into believing that the cheating did not happen.
10. He’s tired of the relationship
One of the signs that a man is done with a committed relationship is starting a new one with something else. In that case, he does not care if the partner finds out. He just wants out and if cheating will give him the freedom he craves, so be it. He may even go as far as rubbing his cheating in his partner’s face, hoping it will spur her to end the relationship herself and move on. Some people are terrible at breakups and instead of telling you directly that they are done, they will do something (e no dey pass cheating on you) to make you break up the relationship yourself.
Bottom line
Do all men cheat? The answer is no. However, cheating has been associated with men from time immemorial. There are several reasons why they cheat. But one thing we should understand is that cheating is a choice. No matter how you were “pushed” to do it, you still chose to cheat.
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