‘Don’t wait to make it before you get married’ – Joe Abah counsels young men

Nigerian author and thought leader, Joe Abah, has encouraged men not to wait till they “make it” before settling for a wife.

Joe Abah advised men in a tweet to embrace humble beginnings, marry a “good woman” and grow with them.

According to him, those who wait till there are well established before they choose to marry stand the risk of being difficult to live with when.

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He said if a man decides to wait till he makes it, he’s likely to “have become selfish, self-obsessed and difficult to live with.”

Joe Abah noted that such a man could become so self-absorbed they question a lot of things around them.

There’s been a wave of reactions to his post since he posted it on Tuesday, January 24, 2023.

@RAPHAEL63147203 agreed:
“True talk sir. But also can u help advice our ladies wen a gud husband comes their way few years in2 d Marriage mayb with high expectations things don’t work according 2 their projections it becomes a problem 4 d man. Then u hear words like u shld ve gotten ur life together first”

@AriyoAyodeji4 disagreed:
“This idea is not ideal for this our generation, that ready made man is factor for most ladies. Everybody wants what is best for themselves”

@AlbertJireh stated:
“There’s another problem affecting some if us, sir:
1. They say beauty doesn’t matter, but for some of us, it does as it would reduce our temptations.
2. We also desire one with whom we can have mental intercourse. Amongst other things but they hardly come complete.”

@AlbertJireh commented:
“We were in a social gathering last month when this discourse came up then 1 aunty said that d brother has to have the money because Pampers yaf cost. She said Pampers of 4k would only last 3days. Na so I kuku keep my hot takes sote e cold I nor fit drop am”