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10 ways to spot a depressed Nigerian man

The struggle to meet up to the unrealistic  perceived standards the outside world, could make you end up as a depressed Nigerian man.
10 ways to spot a depressed Nigerian man

Being a man in Nigeria comes with its level of survival tactics. In a country where men suffer different levels of “broke-shaming”, body-shaming and other types of humiliation from members of the public and the opposite sex, the struggle to meet up to the unrealistic perceived standards of the outside world does make some male individuals end up as a depressed Nigerian man.

Before the turn of the 21st century, depression was not widely discussed. Even though the world has finally recognised it as a killer of many potential-filled persons, I believe it is still not taken as seriously as it should be. Today, over 364 million people worldwide suffer from one or more forms of depression, which is an estimated 3.8 per cent of the world’s population. Of that number, 5 per cent of them are adults and within that range, 5.7 per cent of those adults older than 60 years  

Many Nigerians consider suicide attempts such as lagoon jumping and the consumption of insecticides to be motivated by spiritual forces and, therefore, feel that depression is a spiritual condition. Once more, they are oblivious to what is going on in the minds of people who are enduring an extremely difficult situation in an economy like ours, as the current scenario in Nigeria keeps pushing them to the breaking point.

Depression can impair motivation and disrupt one’s ability to concentrate. snuff out one’s happiness, maybe induce the feeling of hopelessness, and even inspire suicide It is rare to find a male in Nigeria who hasn’t suffered his fair share of depressive episodes; either he has had such an episode himself or has a friend or relative who has.

Furthermore, depression is frequently mistaken for people’s normal mood swings and sadness, but this is not entirely accurate because mood swings can pass quickly, whereas depression lasts for months or even years in severe cases, and if it is not treated properly, it can cause a person to harm him or herself.

The number of suicide deaths in Nigeria nowadays is extremely high, especially recently. Although data is not readily available, these fatalities can be linked to depression. The mental challenges that Nigerian men typically face are starting to receive the attention they deserve, thanks to the growth of social media and wellness podcasts. 

As a person who is lucky to not experience any form of mental constraints or depression, your duty as a friend to anyone who might seem depressed is to speak to them and show immense care and attention to them for them not to feel alone. ‘

a depressed Nigerian man

The causes of depression among Nigerians could be clinical or in most cases triggered due to factors like unemployment, bullying, a lack of money, the death of a loved one, the loss of property, false allegations, and underachievement, among other things. It is crucial to recognise the symptoms of a depressed Nigerian man as soon as possible to provide him with the necessary care before it leads to a negative effect on him.

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10 signs to spot a depressed Nigerian man

1. Feelings of guilt, hopelessness, or worthlessness

Depressed persons may tend to say certain things in their speeches that imply that they do not see any value in themselves or life. Because of this, it is important to be a good listener when they speak.

It’s possible for you to feel like you are a liability to other people or the world and your loved ones would be better off without you. Feelings like this make you feel like your existence is a waste of time, hence, it reflects in your gestures and conversation. Some individuals may tell if someone is depressed by the words they use. 

With or without cause, depression can result in a persistently negative attitude toward life. A depressed Nigerian man may experience a loss of motivation and this is because the motivation he used to have has been drenched in immense melancholy.

2. Constant feelings of  sadness and anxiety

If you find yourself feeling unhappy or anxious regularly, that could be an indication of depression.

People suffering from depression are also more likely to be nervous about particular variables or wants in their lives that are not met; this causes a person to be consistently gloomy and depressed and alters their aura to a sadistic one. You may feel as if you are constantly out of sorts.

It is also typical for anxiety symptoms to coexist with sadness, as well as feelings of something bad waiting to happen.

3. Loss of interest in activities you usually enjoy

With the amount of fun a person or group of people are known to have regularly, it would be easy to identify when a person’s mood is continually diminishing, as contrasted to their regular, energetic demeanour. A sudden lack of interest in some of your favourite activities for no apparent reason can be a major indicator of mental collapse.

People suffering from depression often lose interest in activities they formerly enjoyed. Hobbies, pastimes, music, sports or hanging out with friends. They may decline opportunities to spend time with others such as family and friends, and they may miss key opportunities at work or school. 

sad Nigerian men

4. Loss of sex drive

When a person is depressed, they may experience a significant decline in their desire for sex.  You could be wondering what happened to your sexual urge. The dopamine surge you get regularly vanishes, and you lose interest in having sexual encounters. As a partner/spouse, you may spot a depressed Nigerian man by his lack of desire for physical intimacy. These could be the result of overthinking, overstressing, or overanxiety, all of which are symptoms of depression.

The inability to perform sexually is a typical but underreported indication of sadness, according to a 2018 study. The researchers discovered that 62.5 per cent of the participating men experienced issues with sexual intimacy.

5. Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions

Having trouble remembering information and being easily distracted might be symptoms of depression. You find it challenging to maintain your typical mental tempo as your mental vision becomes blurry. When a person’s head is filled with a variety of depressing thoughts and sadistic feelings, it is extremely difficult to pay attention when it is needed. Your career and personal life and decision-making abilities may be affected by this. 

6. Loss of appetite and weight

It is common for people to lose weight; in fact, doctors will occasionally encourage patients, particularly those on the big side, to do so for a variety of health-related reasons. However, a very common sign of depression is a person who consistently loses their appetite. If you have always known someone to be passionate about eating but all of a sudden, he or she starts to lose their appetite and occasionally even forgets they have not eaten, there may be a cause for it and it may very well be depression. Lack of appetite also causes a person to lose weight noticeably. This frequently happens to persons who are depressed.

7. Anger and irritability

Men may not talk about some mental challenges but instead, they tend to get quickly agitated by the smallest things, which can set them off and cause them to transfer aggression. Men may also exhibit different depression symptoms than those of the other sex. A sad Nigerian guy might be recognised by his aura. If he consistently exhibits unjustified rage in contrast to his usual demeanour, he may be struggling with a mental issue. Insomnia, unemployment, or not being able to support their families are a few factors that may contribute to this irritability.

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8. Sleeping issues

Depression can cause major changes in your sleep patterns. In this case, there are two possibilities: insomnia (lack of sleep) and/or hypersomnia (oversleeping).

You will have difficulty falling asleep if you experience insomnia. If you used to be a late riser, it is possible that you would not be able to fall asleep as quickly or that you will wake up considerably quicker than normal. You could have a sleep issue that keeps you awake all night.

On the other hand, hypersomnia causes oversleeping rather than a person finding it difficult to go to sleep. For example, If your length of sleep is usually around 6 to 7 hours, you will experience a drastic increase, as opposed to your regular hours. In this case, no matter how much you sleep, you will never feel rested. Any sleep troubles can make it difficult to complete everyday duties on time.

9. Suicidal thoughts 

Multiple thoughts of self-harm are the height of depression and people must seek help when it is beginning to get to this point. Suicidal ideas or threats that recur frequently should not be disregarded. Immediate communication with a therapist is paramount to helping you cope  

10. Risky behaviours such as self-medicating with alcohol or drugs

It is important to stay with someone who exhibits these characteristics until help can be obtained. Eliminate access to anything that such persons could utilise in harming themselves and listen to them without passing judgment.

a very sad man

Helpful methods to cope with depression

  • Goals. Prioritise your chores and set attainable goals.
  • Support. To get emotional support, turn to your partner, family, or close friends. Learn how to connect with people so that you may partake in social activities.
  • Coping. Learn techniques for stress management, such as mindfulness and meditation, and hone your problem-solving abilities.
  • Decisions. Put off making significant decisions—like switching jobs—until your depressive symptoms subside.
  • Activities. Participate in pursuits you generally find enjoyable, such as sports, fishing, or a pastime.
  • Health. To support greater mental health, try to maintain a regular schedule and adopt healthy lifestyle habits, such as a balanced diet and regular exercise.

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