To be a man
To be a man is not a day’s job
Yeh, yeh yeh na so e be
To be a man
To be a man is not a day’s job
Yeh, yeh yeh na so e be
Flavor N’abania’s song To Be A Man is an appropriate description of a typical Nigerian man. A Nigerian man is a known hustler, very intelligent, innovative and loves to dominate wherever he finds himself. He can also be loud, domineering, demanding and a con artist.
A Nigerian man is very conservative and likes to be in charge of everything – his girlfriend, wife, family, friends, property etc. He wants to make the final decisions and his authority should never be questioned. In simple terms, a Nigerian man wants to be… a man. If you want to learn more about Nigerian men, sit back, read and enjoy the flow.
Young Nigerian man
These are typical character traits of a young Nigerian man.
Fun and easygoing
A young Nigerian man is fun, easygoing and very friendly. He can easily start up a conversation that can lead to instant friendship. As a lady, starting a romantic relationship with him is easy with little or no drama.
Expected to leave father’s house before age 30
A young Nigerian man is expected to fend for himself before the age of 30. He is expected to move out of his father’s house and be independent. If not, he comes a subject of ridicule and mockery. Of course, the economic situation in Nigeria makes this difficult for the young man, but it doesn’t erase the fact that his clock is ticking in his father’s house.
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Must preserve the family name
Every young Nigerian man is raised to carry on his family name. In Nigeria, boys are more valuable than girls. A young man is expected to marry a woman who will take on his surname and bear him sons.
Groomed to take family responsibilities
A Young Nigerian man is groomed to be the breadwinner of the family. If he’s the first son, he will not only take care of his wife and children but extend it to his parents and siblings. This puts a lot of pressure on the young man to meet expectations that are sometimes not realistic.
Can get away with anything
“Boys will be boys” is a popular saying in Nigerian families. A young Nigerian man should be able to get away with just about anything. Unlike a girl who is raised to be a wife material, the boy is essentially left to raise himself. The result is he doesn’t expect to face the consequences of his actions. If, for instance, he gets a girl pregnant out of wedlock, he can choose to walk away without looking back.
Cannot show “soft” emotions
This means a young Nigerian man is not allowed to cry in public. He is discouraged from sharing his feelings with others from a tender age. So, he bottles up his feelings only expressing them in anger and unnecessary meanness. Some young men lack empathy for others.
Very proud
An average young Nigerian man is cocky, controlling and self-centered. You can’t blame him because he is raised to believe he is not a man without an excess dose of pride.
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He doesn’t make love, he has sex
Having sex is just fulfilling a biological itch. But making love is deeper than that. It involves an emotional bonding of body and soul between partners. A young Nigerian man doesn’t know that and doesn’t care. All he cares about is f**king. No wonder a lot of them can’t stay faithful to one partner.
He loves traditional Nigerian food
Give a young Nigerian man a well-prepared local dish and you’re halfway to owning him forever. He doesn’t joke with our local dishes like swallows with delicious soups garnished with assorted meat/fish, yam porridge, moi moi, beans, etc.
He cherishes his mother
An average young Nigerian man doesn’t take his mother’s love for granted. Sometimes, he loves his mother more than his girlfriend or wife. In some cases, he must have his mother’s approval before making major decisions.
Nigeria men’s fashion
Every year, we witness smooth changes in Nigerian men’s fashion, especially in traditional fabrics. This will show you the trending styles in Nigerian men’s traditional wear.
Kaftan
Kaftan styles are the most popular fashion styles among Nigerian men. The design gives room for creativity, beautiful patterns and excellent clothing. Another great thing about Kaftans is that you can switch it up by wearing a different pair of trousers like jeans with them.
Agbada
Agbada styles give Nigerian men an elegant and royal look. Every Nigerian man wants to be respected and revered. One of the fastest ways of achieving it is wearing agbada to give off that “big man” vibe. The agbada fabric is sewn in such a way that the man is constantly required to adjust it to balance well on the shoulders.
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Atiku style
Atiku style is sewn is a finished body fitting way. It is simple and suits all body types. You can choose to wear a cap or not. The embroidery is usually very light and not too noticeable.
Dashiki styles
This style is sewn like agbada but differently. The length often doesn’t reach or pass the thighs. Unlike agbada, dashiki doesn’t overflow and settles well on the shoulders. It is smaller and usually comes with two noticeable pockets in front. You can sew a full-length trousers or shorts to match.
Ishiagu style
Ishiagu is a popular Igbo traditional wear, especially at traditional weddings. You can create different styles with the fabric.
Senator style
Senator styles can come in either long or short sleeves. The styles are also plainly patterned. You can wear it with sunglasses, hats and beads. Senators are sewn in bold, strong materials and don’t need too much embroidery as well.
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Nigerian men’s culture
These are the typical way of life for a Nigerian man and they are:
- He must not forget his roots.
- A Nigerian man must marry and have children.
- He must have sons that will carry on his name.
- If he’s the firstborn or only son, he must take care of both his nuclear family and the extended ones.
- He must be in charge always. His authority must not be questioned.
- A Nigerian man must be the breadwinner of his family otherwise he will lose respect.
- He must put his family first above everything else.
- Monogamy is not compulsory. He can choose to marry another wife without consulting the first one. Ask Yul Edochie.
Pros and cons of dating a Nigerian man
Pros
- A Nigerian man is very generous. He can spend money on who he is dating
- He is very hard working. So he doesn’t expect you to take care of him financially.
- A Nigerian man likes an intelligent woman. If you can hold serious conversations with him without making him feel like an idiot, babe you’re on your way to the alter.
- He’s very protective of his partner. Nigerian men love their partners as much as they love themselves.
- A Nigerian man is a sweet talker. He knows what to say in any situation.
- He is very easygoing and fun.
- A Nigerian man respects a woman who is herself. If he finds out you’re fake, the love and respect are gone.
Cons
- A Nigerian man is often not romantic. He doesn’t understand what PDA means. So, don’t be surprised if the romance department is lacking in your relationship.
- He is a sweet talker. While that may be a pro, it can also be an unpleasant con. You might catch your Nigerian man having an affair with another woman and he will give you a million reasons why you’re wrong.
- He is always right, loves forcing his opinion down your throat.
- A Nigerian man is polygamous in nature. He will most likely cheat on you then remain faithful.
- He is very conservative. He respects the culture and tradition that suits him.
- A Nigerian man is often too ambitious which could lead him to commit crimes to make money.
How to deal with a Nigerian man
Ladies, if you’re looking to date or marry a Nigerian man, the following is how you will deal with him:
- Respect him.
- Know how to cook traditional dishes.
- Be industrious. He may not want you to take care of him financially. But he expects you to be able to take care of yourself.
- Respect his family, especially his mother.
- Don’t look down on his culture and tradition.
- Trust him.
- Be a lady of good morals and character.
- Learn how to do domestic chores.
- Don’t be too demanding.
- Give him space.
- Make him feel valued. Don’t challenge him all the time.
- Give him great sex.
