So you have been crushing on this cute guy for what seems like forever. But you are scared of approaching him because you do not want to appear cheap. Well, your feelings are normal. For decades, men were expected to go after women. Women who tried to bend the rules by doing the chairing themselves were often ridiculed as cheap and desperate.
Thankfully, the world has evolved. Women have become more empowered to go after what they want, including chasing after the man of their dreams. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with giving your crush the green light. However, you might want to learn how to do that without appearing cheap.
Read this article to know more information and land your crush in no distant time.
How to show green light to your crush without appearing cheap
1. Make eye contact with him
Looking him straight in the eye may be enough for him to get the message and act accordingly. Making eye contact is an effective way to get your crush’s attention whether he is a across the room or right next to you. A 3-5 second eye contact is enough without giving him the impression that he is staring at a psycho.
2. Smile and laugh at his jokes
Your gorgeous smile should be your selling point in attracting your crush. When you are chatting with him, smile and laugh at what he is saying when appropriate. This shows that he has all your attention because you find him fascinating. It also shows that you are a fun and refreshing person to be around. You need to carry sunny disposition everywhere you go, especially when you are in proximity with your crush.
3. Ask him for help
Men are naturally blessed with protective traits. They like to be the hero. So be the princess in distress so that your crush can be your knight in shining armor. For instance, you can ask for his help to solve some mathematical questions if you know he is good at maths. You can ask for his help to fix your faulty laptop if he is good at it.
A simple favour from him can lead to possibilities. First, you get to spend time with him, giving him the opportunity to know you better. Also, you are giving him the opportunity to show off his skills. With time, he will develop some boyfriend vibes and become so protective of you.
Note that you should only ask for your crush’s help based on his capabilities. Asking for things he cannot deliver may put him off.
4. Mind your dressing
Always dress to impress. However, be careful of overdoing it so you will not appear desperate. You may want to show off your physical assets which will get his attention. But he may not want to keep you based on the way you dress.
Some men may not mind their women showing off lots of skin. Others are more conservative. To be on a safer side, dress moderately. As long as what you are wearing makes you look classy, go for it.
5. Maintain a healthy physical hygiene
It is not enough to dress to kill. It is best to keep a good personal hygiene. Brush your teeth, wash and style your hair, practice other good hygiene, look stylish, have good posture and look approachable. When your crush constantly sees how put together you are, he may develop a romantic interest in you.
Also, practicing good hygiene means you have self love and carry yourself with confidence, traits that any man can fall for.
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6. Build a connection over common interests
Make most of the similarities between you and your crush. If you both love gaming or watching football or a particular genre of movies, use it as an excuse to connect with him. Explore common interests together. Talk about your passions, hobbies, causes, or ideas.
Knowing you both share a common interest shows that you are on the right path to getting that man of your dreams. After all, one of the factors of a successful relationship is sharing common interests with your partner.
7. Hang out at his favourite spots
If you know where your crush likes to spend his time, show up there once in a while. For instance, if you know his favourite bar, show up there with a friend and act surprised when you see him. Also, if you know that he has tickets to watch his favourite team play live, try to get your own tickets even if you do not care about the game itself.
In other words, find ways to be in your crush’s face without seeming offensive. He might thing it is fate and show more interest in you.
8. Be approachable
Don’t be that girl that acts like a witch around her crush to be prove she is a “strong and independent woman.” Be super friendly and have good manners. Smile and reply when he greets you. Call and ask how he is doing, show empathy when he is feeling low and be happy for him when he has made an achievement. Give him a chance to approach you when you are alone.
Your attitude towards him will determine if he will be drawn to you or away from you. Having a friendly disposition will give you the desired result.
9. Be nice to important people in his life
Another proven way to a man’s heart is how you treat the people in his life. If he introduces you to his family or friends, be nice to them. Have a cheerful disposition and just relax around them. Once in a while, try to contact them for a hangout or simply send them a gift especially during a festive period.
10. Be soft around him
Show him your soft side. This includes your vulnerabilities, kindness, sweetness so he can fall for you. Cheer him up when he is having a difficult day. Listen to him when he is trying to vent. When he realises that you can be the shoulders to cry on, he will believe that you are the real deal and become inspired to make the right moves.
Conclusion
Always be yourself. Do not allow your feelings to overshadow the real you. Always show your crush who you are, no more, no less. It is up to him to decide if he can go ahead or not. Either way, know that you deserve real love. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled, and you will not accept anything less.
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